5 Things You Can Do When You Want to Quit Parenthood
I have two teenagers in my house. Raising teens is hard, but I didn’t realize how triggering all of those BIG emotions were going to be for me at this stage in the game. With my own hormonal changes (hello menopause) and theirs, the emotional ride we are on day to day is like living on a roller. And I DO NOT like roller coasters.
There have been many moments lately when I thought to myself, “I can’t do this. I want to quit parenthood.” It's hard to admit but I’ve even heard myself say, “I hate this.” And then the critical voice in my head ignites. “What kind of person hates being a parent? Why can’t I just deal?” The more I resist these thoughts the bigger and louder they become which doesn’t help matters. So I decided to surrender to my negative feelings about parenting and lo and behold things began to settle.
It's perfectly normal to feel like you hate being a parent sometimes. Parenting is hard work, and there are days when it feels overwhelming, stressful, or just plain exhausting. It's important to remember that these feelings are temporary, and that you are not alone. I made it my mission to figure out some strategies to use on the days I wish I could throw in the towel.
Acknowledge your feelings. It's important to acknowledge your feelings, even if they are negative. Trying to bottle them up will only make things worse.
Take a break. If you're feeling overwhelmed, take a break. Go for a walk, take a bath, or read a book. Anything that will help you relax and de-stress.
Talk to someone. Talk to your partner, a friend, or a therapist. Sometimes just talking about how you're feeling can help you feel better.
Do something nice for yourself. Take some time for yourself to do something you enjoy. This could be anything from having a cup of tea, taking a deep breath or a walk or calling a friend.
Slow Down and Connect. When you're feeling down, take a moment to slow down, put away the phone, chores or work and connect with your child, if even for a brief moment. Read them a book, share a funny meme, or play a game. Remember the good in them and yourself. Think of the things you love most about your child and yourself.
Remember, parenting is a marathon, not a sprint. There will be good days and bad days, but it's important to focus on the good. And if you ever feel like you can't handle it on your own, there are people who can help.
If your bad days outnumber the good please consider getting some support. Parent coaching can be a great resource for making your parenting life better, easier and more joyful.
